Hello, my darlings!
Happy Friday! I figured I would use this post to put down all my plans for this year!
Well… I guess I can start with saying that I have officially bought my ticket to move back to the States. I am saying goodbye to Japan on June 1st. I’m having some really mixed feelings about it.
I turned in my notice at work already, too. My last day is on May 15th. I’m going to use those last two weeks to finish packing and send things back, close accounts, and spend time with Yohei.
The way things are looking now, it doesn’t seem like he is going to be able to go back with me in June, but we are going to keep working on his visa. I will get a lawyer to get him there with me if I have to.
When I get back to America, I’m going to be staying at my dad’s place for a little while. I’m probably going to stay with my Gramma in the area, too, to ease her loneliness… especially since it will be around the one year anniversary of Grampa’s death.
I will be working on getting my license renewed, getting my last name changed on my accounts, and getting a new social security card, too. So much to do, so little time!
After about a week and a half or two weeks – I don’t remember the exact day – we will be heading to the Ozarks for Gramma and Grampa’s anniversary. This trip was planned about five years ago and Grampa asked us to still go and to not cancel it before he passed. It’s going to be a very emotional trip.
After the trip, I will be heading to Colorado with my little sister to start my new life. Once there, I will be going to set up a phone probably first thing. Next, I’ll be getting ready for a job interview. Yes, it’s already kind of a set thing. I have connections.
My little sister is getting married in July and I’m going to be a bridesmaid. I love my little sister dearly but she is something of a Bridezilla so we will see how that turns out.
I’m planning on posting a lot about my new life on my YouTube channel and will of course be blogging a lot about it. I know it’s going to take a lot to get used to the new life I will be living. Life in America is extremely different from life here in Japan. My dad asked me a few interesting questions and I thought I’d post them here with the answers.
- What 5 things am I looking forward to most about living in America?
- Having a car
- I miss having a car more than I ever thought I would. It’s something that I think a lot of people have gotten so used to having that they take it for granted. Take my trip to Costco for example. Bringing groceries home on the train is hard. I also miss the freedom of playing a song and singing out loud to it without a care. That was one of my huge stress outlets when I was living there and I miss it.
- Clothes dryers
- YOU try hanging clothes outside to dry. That sweater you washed this morning? Hope you’re not planning on wearing it until at least the day after tomorrow. Unless it’s rainy season, in which case, next week. Unless you want to carry it down to the laundromat and pay $1 per 7 minutes… but remember, no car!
- A decent kitchen
- My kitchen is a joke here. I don’t have any counters, very little storage space… My fridge only goes up to my thigh, with the freezer above it going to about my elbow. My stove has two burners but the whole thing was bought used – there is no oven attached to it. I miss having a real kitchen – especially since I love to cook and bake!
- A dog
- Oh. My. Goodness. I miss having a dog more than I can possibly put into words. Moving to Japan and not being around dogs anymore feels like a part of my soul has been ripped away and is being held hostage on the other side of the planet. Growing up with dogs and being near one all my life made them part of me.
- I know this seems cheesy, but I miss my family. Being apart from everyone through the pandemic and while everything happened with Grampa made me really want to go home. Dealing with loss made me want nothing more than to cuddle on the couch with my mom and cry. She loved my grandfather too but I think the fact that she couldn’t console me while I was falling apart on the phone hurt her more.
- Having a car
- What 5 things will I miss most about Japan?
- I love Japanese culture and history. I am going to miss being able to walk to the nearest shrine to feel the energy there.
- I love Japanese food, so that’s another thing I’m definitely going to miss.
- Convenience stores
- There’s something special about Japanese conbini. If you’ve ever been to one, you’ll understand what I mean. You can go there for a quick snack, a hot meal, a coffee, to pay bills, to use the ATM, to pick up pretty much anything you might need in the moment.
- Speaking Japanese
- I know this seems odd, but I will miss speaking in Japanese throughout the day. I’ll be going from having it be the dominant language of my day to it only being spoken when I am talking to my husband.
- My husband
- This is the biggest one, obviously. I know it won’t be forever, but I am going to miss waking up next to the love of my life. I hope his visa goes through quickly. I don’t think my heart can take being separated from him for long.
- What won’t I miss in Japan?
- Being stared at every time I walk outside.
- I have actually gotten used to it for the most part but I still get the occasional creepy guy on the train to tries to take a photo of my thinking that I don’t notice.
- Being treated like an idiot by salespeople because they don’t realize I speak Japanese.
- I can go into a restaurant and order in perfect Japanese and they will STILL use their hands to make insane gestures like they’re playing a game of charades. Sometimes they catch me on a bad day and I get so annoyed that I actually point out, “I speak Japanese. You don’t have to do that.” I understand that they think they’re helping, but it’s quite embarrassing. I stand out enough as it is. I don’t want that extra attention.
- Having to either walk or bike everywhere to get anywhere.
- This goes hand in hand with looking forward to getting a car when I go back.
- Insane work obligations.
- This one is a big one because Japan actually has a word for “work yourself to death”. You’re expected to put a million percent into work and not complain about it. My job already demands so much of me that I am constantly ill and have to literally think up nice things to say about my job when I’m training new people. My husband, too, puts in insane hours to a job that doesn’t pay him nearly enough. Everything I do and all the overtime I put it, I still don’t make enough to cover my bills and make less than $23,000 a year.
- Not fitting into most clothes I try on and having to shop at a plus sized store.
- Honestly, I miss going to Walmart and picking up a pair of medium sized pajama pants to sleep in. In Japan, I’m like a 2XL. It’s a joke, though, because it’s mostly the fact that I have these things called “hips” that the Japanese anatomy seems to lack.
- Being stared at every time I walk outside.
I guess that’s enough for now! Thank you for reading my silly little rants. I hope you’re enjoying my blog.
I also want to give a shout out to my followers – thank you for finding me entertaining enough to follow! I’m up to 45 followers now, which is a huge deal to me! Thank you so much!
Have an awesome weekend and stay safe!